If you want to speak to someone about your feelings over the past few months, but are worried about making sure you’re speaking to someone who understands where you are coming from, here’s Kemi’s advice:
“It's important to seek the right counsellor and therapist for you, it's crucial to you seeing a positive change. It's an intimate professional relationship and it has to feel right for you.
“Firstly ensure they are a registered member of a professional body – such as the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) which has a directory of qualified therapists. It's ok to have an initial trial session to see if they are the right fit. Ask them about their approach and they will use that approach to help with your difficulties. Think about if that will work for you.
“Feel free to share what your preferences are and what will make you feel comfortable. If it is important to you that your therapist has an understanding of your identity and the intersectionalities that come with that, state that. Some people compare therapy to dating, it's like finding the right match.
“As a shoe lover, I compare them to finding that perfect shoe that fits right, matches your own unique style and you can walk in them all day. There might be a bit of getting used to them and wearing them in in the early days, it might feel uncomfortable at first, so practising getting used to them can ease this and with time they can become familiar and comfortable and allow you to go on your desired journey with ease.”
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